How Dogme 95 Relates to Realtionships

http://www.dogme95.dk/the-vow-of-chastity/

This is for movie-making. But I think it is instructive. Following these rules allows us to "be with what is, here and now."
 

• Shooting must be done on location. Props and sets must not be brought in (if a particular prop is necessary for the story, a location must be chosen where this prop is to be found).
  Don’t add (force) things to the relationship that are not naturally present.
  
  
• The sound must never be produced apart from the images or vice versa. (Music must not be used unless it occurs where the scene is being shot.)
  Don’t “listen for” something. Be with what you are hearing.
  
  
• The camera must be hand-held. Any movement or immobility attainable in the hand is permitted.
  Stay with the “action” of life instead of taking up a “position.”

• The film must be in color. Special lighting is not acceptable. (If there is too little light for exposure the scene must be cut or a single lamp be attached to the camera.)
  Avoid adding things/words/tone/statements intent on enhancing the value of the moment.
  
  
• Optical work and filters are forbidden.
  Avoid filtering this moment through past experiences.
  
  
• The film must not contain superficial action. (Murders, weapons, etc. must not occur.)
  Avoid bringing up past issues and situations.
  
  
• Temporal and geographical alienation are forbidden. (That is to say that the film takes place here and now.)
  Be present to here and now.
  
  
• Genre movies are not acceptable.
  Avoid stereotyping or knowing “how it is/they are.”
  
  
• The film format must be Academy 35 mm.
  ​Strive to being your full self to the moment (without the expectation of the other