If you're purely "in it" for yourself, if you solve issues by letting it all hang out and giving the world "what for," Wise Peer Communication, with all its wonderful communication tools might make you feel just a little bit hampered.
But if you want to do well in relationship with yourself and others, if you want those relationships to be lasting and nurturing, if you want to keep them from getting gummed up by unresolved problems or if you want to heal the ones that already are, Wise Peer Communication will work for you.
The Ego aka the Threat Department
The ego has a very simple outlook: Like to a hammer everything looks like a nail to the ego everything looks like a threat, which is why I think of it as the Threat Department. It's basically like the military--most of the budget goes there, leaving much less for the departments of Love, Affinity, Self-care, Empathy, Connection, etc.
The Threat Dept. will do whatever it takes. It even spies on your conversations. While your Love Department might be looking for common ground, it will feed you a running commentary to manipulate the situation. Things like, Where is this going? Did you hear what I said? You're trying to change my mind. That's stupid!
But this isn't because the ego is nasty (even though it can appear that way) but because it's doing its job! And that is to protect your survival. As uncomfortable as this may sound, on some level, the ego is always concerned about that, no matter how much you care about someone or something. As a Wise Peer, among many others, you learn phenomenal skills and tools that calm the ego enough that it will let you go around it.
But I’m a Sweetie, I Don’t Have Much of an Ego
I hear you. I do. And, you see, the ego is just very good at camouflage. Even when you don't think you have one, you actually still do but it operates under cover. It can camouflage itself as The Dept. of Complaining, Passive-aggression, Focusing on What's Wrong, even Suffering, to name a few. These are departments that deliver specialized survival strategies which is of course why they’re operated by the ego.
But here is what's awesome! Though it will never advertise this to you, the ego, being the brilliant strategist it is, can learn to cooperate with all the other departments, even the Department of Love. It will do so when you take its other options away because love and connection is just too important to you.
The ego can learn that there are more ways to survive than by anticipating or countering threats. It can learn that when it cooperates with the other human needs, such as love, freedom, connection, play and creativity, your whole being can thrive. You still have a Threat Department but it works on keeping you straight on the road, brushing your teeth, reminding you to get a haircut, to read all the notes before your meeting and hitting spell check before hitting publish.
So, yes, anyone can become a Wise Peer.
Wise Peer Communication provides you with fresh insights and teaches you over 40 skills and techniques with which you can get the ego to cooperate so that love and connection are restored (or created as need be). So that traumas, large and small are healed and you are actually free to be in the world as you really are--amazing!